If you are an achiever in life then Ryan has a simple message for you in this book. It’s “be humble”. If by chance you have started experiencing grandiosity, superiority or over self centredness then Ryan has multiple real life examples to share of those who lost their progress and destination merely being fooled by veil of ego. Ryan reminds repeatedly that these were the values of hard work, commitment, perseverance and persistence that brought you to where you are now and if your ego makes you lose contact with these values then the only thing that can perhaps help you is to find ways to reconnect with the same value system that served you through to the success. Stay humble and find ways to keep connected to your core value system. Below is an excerpt from Ryan’s own story
By twenty-five, I had published my first book—which was an immediate and controversial best seller—with my face prominently on the cover. A studio optioned the rights to create a television show about my life. In the next few years, I accumulated many of the trappings of success—influence, a platform, press, resources, money, even a little notoriety. Later, I built a successful company on the back of those assets, where I worked with well-known, wellpaying clients and did the kind of work that got me invited to speak at conferences and fancy events.
With success comes the temptation to tell oneself a story, to round off the edges, to cut out your lucky breaks and add a certain mythology to it all. You know, that arcing narrative of Herculean struggle for greatness against all odds: sleeping on the floor, being disowned by my parents, suffering for my ambition. It’s a type of storytelling in which eventually your talent becomes your identity and your accomplishments become your worth.
But a story like this is never honest or helpful. In my retelling to you just now, I left a lot out. Conveniently omitted were the stresses and temptations; the stomach-turning drops and the mistakes—all the mistakes—were left on the cutting-room floor in favor of the highlight reel. They are the times I would rather not discuss: A public evisceration by someone I looked up to, which so crushed me at the time that I was later taken to the emergency room. The day I lost my nerve, walked into my boss’s office, and told him I couldn’t cut it and was going back to school—and meant it. The ephemeral nature of bestsellerdom, and how short it actually was (a week). The book signing that one person showed up at. The company I founded tearing itself to pieces and having to rebuild it. Twice. These are just some of the moments that get nicely edited out.
This fuller picture itself is still only a fraction of a life, but at least it hits more of the important notes—at least the important ones for this book: ambition, achievement, and adversity.